“Nothing is more exciting and rewarding than the sudden flash of insight that leaves you a changed person” Arthur Gordon
Now that you have started to explore your mindset and you know who and what triggers you, it’s time to look at some ways that you can become more positive and master your mindset. Throughout the next few weeks, we’ll be exploring these in more depth, but just to get you started:
Take responsibility for your life and make things happen– no one can do this for you. Remember only focus on the things that you can change. There is no point wasting your energy in trying to change things that are out of your control – like the past, the economy, or even other people.
If you have problems that need to be dealt with in your life, stop putting them off and hoping they will go away. No one is coming to save you, so decide that you’re ready to save yourself. Write everything down that is occupying head space and try and tackle one thing at a time, you will feel so empowered because you’re taking action.
Don’t take on the role of a victim and blameothers for why your life doesn’t look the way you want it to. Your choices have brought you to this point, when you can own that you become more powerful at creating a better future.
Accept that bad things sometimes happen, it’s how you respond to those things that make a difference. Of course you need time and space to feel into those bigger emotions and it would be wrong to suggest otherwise, but it doesn’t mean you have to stay there reliving those emotions forever.
Don’t let fear get in your way.Fear is simply your mind trying to keep you safe. It doesn’t like change, because it is unfamiliar and everything is uncertain – push your comfort zones a little everyday.
Stop the moaning, criticizing and complaining. Not only does this drag you down and gives energy and attention to the things you’re not happy about, it also affects those around you. No one wants to spend time with someone who drags them down – again I am not talking about the times when we need support, I am talking about being negative for the sake of conversation! You would be amazed how many people use negativity as a way to bond and connect. Think about the quality of your conversations and if necessary steer the conversation towards more positive things.
Allow yourself to let go of the past, so that you can enjoy the present. Let go of who you think you were (you’re not defined by the past), let go of anger and resentments and if necessary forgive.
Protect your personal boundariesand don’t spend time with people who drain you. Sometimes you have to let go of unhealthy and toxic relationships/friendships. I know this is hard when it comes to family members, but maybe this is about reducing the time you spend with them.
Stop judgingothers. You have no idea what path they have walked in life and you are wasting energy by directing your judgements at them.
Stop watching the News, it‘s full of hate, violence and negativity. It creates fear and is only reporting a small percentage of what is going on in the world.
Enjoy life, smile, dance, sing, do activities that fill your heart with joy, engage in conversations with people and just connect – fun is good for the soul and it raises your energetic vibe!
Be gratefulfor what you have in life, it is very difficult to be negative while also being thankful for the roof over your head, your family, your friends etc. Start a gratitude practice, even if that is writing down 3 things every evening that you are grateful for.